Perfectionism is usually described as an irrational desire to be flawless accompanied by self-criticism and a concern about how other people will evaluate you if you fail. Brené Brown, author of The Gifts of Imperfection, suggests that it’s a trait we adopt to protect against…

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Last week a friend of mine called to express her growing sense of overwhelm. She’s overloaded at work, she’s had a couple of unexpected financial pressures and her ageing mum is not well. She feels that her time is constantly stretched and she’s having difficulty…

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How often in life, in the big moments, do we encourage our loved ones (both children and adults) with the words, “Just be yourself”? We know exactly what that advice means yet in our everyday lives, seeking ‘to belong’ in every situation means this simple…

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Often the conversations I have with clients end up being about the more minute details of life and occasionally someone will say, “I can’t believe we’re talking about this!”. They expect the real issues to be much bigger. I have come to learn that it’s…

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Most of us imagine that once we find the perfect partner, reach our ideal weight, land our dream job, or once our kids are sleeping through the night, then we’ll feel happier. In 2012, psychologists and happiness experts Kennon Sheldon and Sonja Lyubomirsky wrote a…

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When our relationships are going well, they’re a source of unequalled joy but when they’re not, they inevitably cause us worry and hurt. In an ideal world, we would always listen and communicate from the best part of ourselves and we’d monitor our behaviour when…

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I read an article on the weekend about the rise of health conscious women who post beautiful images of themselves on Instagram. Mostly they’re clever and creative women who are simply doing what they love but while I was reading, I worried about how my…

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When I first started meditating, I resisted an early morning practise. I’m not a morning person at all. Eventually though, I found that other things were getting in the way of my day time meditation (work, kids, life) and I could see myself reverting back…

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‘We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.’ Plato Fear is a strange thing. Sometimes you’re not even aware that you’re feeling it. It can sit there, under…

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