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“Make space in your life for the things that mat

“Make space in your life for the things that matter, for family and friends, love and generosity, fun and joy. “ Jonathan Sacks⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If there’s one thing this year has taught me it’s savouring the small things that we so often take for granted. I’m shaping my life to do more of the things that genuinely fill me and less of the things I think I ‘should’. ⠀⠀⠀
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What will you do more of? ✨🌿

“Be patient. Do not compromise. And give your de

“Be patient. Do not compromise. And give your destiny time to find you.” Wade Davis⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If there’s one piece of advice I could offer my younger self, it’s this. “Believe in your choices. You know who you are and you know what you love.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you want things from your life that others don’t understand, don’t doubt yourself. Embrace what you know to be right for you. And remember to let your intuition guide you. As long as you’re willing to listen, you’ll find all of the answers you need within.✨⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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📷 beautiful pic via @saxonkent

If you have a vigilant inner critic, a sense of im

If you have a vigilant inner critic, a sense of imposter syndrome or if you’re constantly comparing yourself unfavourably to other people, chances are you could benefit from self-compassion.
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Join me online tomorrow morning in my final mindfulness and self-compassion workshop for this year. We’ll meditate together and I’ll share some tips about how to create a kinder, more accepting relationship with yourself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Booking link in my bio. If finances are tight, please get in touch via email (hello@totalbalance.com.au) to join at no cost. 🙏⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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📷 @lizzycphoto

"Sometimes in the waves of change, we find our tru

"Sometimes in the waves of change, we find our true direction." Unknown⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I've had lots of conversations this year with people who have re-evaluated their lives. So many priorities have been changed.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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For me, it’s just staying focused on the simple things. More time in nature, weekends in the garden, lots of home cooking, less over-committing and now with the removal of the 25km limit, the joy of once again catching up with family and friends.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What about you? Has anything changed this year?

"When we are no longer able to change a situation

"When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.” Viktor E. Frankl⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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A client of mine once told me that the best relationship advice she’d been given was, “do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I think this applies to so many areas of our lives. We can hold onto our preferences and opinions and feel stuck or frustrated when others don’t agree – or we can soften our edges and let go a little. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Even with plenty of practice, we might still find this hard at times, but I’ve come to learn it’s the ultimate freedom. 🙌

There’s a book that’s been inside of me for mo

There’s a book that’s been inside of me for more than twenty years. One that’s full of practical tips as well as all the best research to help you find your way home to yourself and challenge your patterns of thinking. A couple of years ago, the wonderful Ingrid Ohlsson from Pan Macmillan gave me the nudge I needed to get it written. That book is called ‘Change Your Thinking to Change Your Life’ and I’m so excited to share it with you today. Within it I’ve included everything I've learned about how to change your life including the philosophies and exercises I've used with clients over the past nineteen years and the practices that have helped most in my own life. There are chapters to help you discover your values and strengths and find your life purpose. And others on quietening your inner critic, overcoming perfectionism and changing your negative thinking. It’s due for release early next year but pre-orders have just opened on the @macmillanaus website. I’ve included the link in my bio. Huge thanks to the team at Pan Mac. It has been a dream working together. ✨

“The curious paradox is that when I accept mysel

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Carl Rogers⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Next time your inner critic starts recalling the mistakes you’ve made or finding all of the reasons you’re wrong, try this little circuit breaker instead. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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First, catch those critical thoughts and make an active choice to hit the pause button.
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Next, find your inner mentor instead. That’s the part of you that can offer yourself some compassion and kindness and forgive you for any of your flaws. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Close your eyes and think about where you’d find that kindness in your body (for me, it’s around my heart area). Imagine your in-breath expands that feeling so that it fills every cell in your body as you say to yourself (under your breath), “you’re ok, you’re ok, you’re ok”.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This simple practice is a way of rewiring your brain to balance the distortion in your thinking. It’s likely you’ll need to do it over and over for a few months before it really starts to sink in but once it does, it’ll change your life. ✨⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Pic by @chrisjamesphotos. Can’t wait to be back there. #wilsonsprom

I'm working on the final round of edits for my new

I'm working on the final round of edits for my new book (due out early next year with @macmillanaus) and I’ve just been re-reading the chapter I wrote on finding meaning in life.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I included these words of Viktor Frankl's and wanted to share them with you today. A lovely reminder that even in the most difficult life circumstances, there are beautiful moments to be found.
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"As the inner life of the prisoner tended to become more intense, he also experienced the beauty of art and nature as never before. Under their influence he sometimes even forgot his own frightful circumstances. If someone had seen our faces on the journey from Auschwitz to a Bavarian camp as we beheld the mountains of Salzburg with their summits glowing in the sunset, through the little barred windows of the prison carriage, he would never have believed that those were the faces of men who had given up all hope of life and liberty. Despite that factor – or maybe because of it – we were carried away by nature’s beauty, which we had missed for so long."

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” Thich Nhat Hanh⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Beautiful pic by @serajwright.

© Kate James 2020

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