If ever you’ve experienced a sudden accident or diagnosis, a significant relationship breakdown or the loss of someone close, you know that such events can shake you to the core and change the way you view the world.
Once the shock has passed, your real priorities begin to become clear and you realise that every day you spend feeling unhappy is a waste of your short, but precious, life.
It’s at times like this that people often re-evaluate the work that they do and in many cases, one of the first changes they make is to start exploring new roles.
Rather than having something shock you into creating change, take a look at what truly brings you happiness and fulfilment even during the smoothest times.
If you’re experiencing any of the following symptoms, maybe it’s time to consider whether you’re on the right track
1. You feel anxious on Sunday afternoons
If you’re anything like most of my clients who are unhappy in their roles, your anxiety levels start rising after midday on Sunday in anticipation of another week at work. You probably say to yourself “snap out of it, it’s not that bad, it’s just a job”.
Your anxiety is not imagined. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge that this is genuinely tough for you. You’re not being weak. Any role that evokes ongoing stress in this way is an indication that you’re not in the right place. Instead of being hard on yourself, consider that you’re more than likely a square peg in a round hole. You just need to find a role that’s a better fit for you.
2. You’re being bullied
It’s usually worth having a conversation directly with the perpetrator or with HR to attempt to resolve a bullying scenario before quitting your job. Make sure you also seek out support if you’re in this situation and remember, the longer you stay, the greater the impact on your confidence. In some situations it’s better to move on than be subjected to prolonged stress. It may be unfair, but this is a decision for your health and happiness
3. You’re frequently unwell
If you’re picking up every virus that’s going around, that’s not just unlucky – it’s a sign that your immune system is under duress. Stress plays a significant role in your wellbeing and it’s nearly impossible to feel calm when you’re anxious and unhappy at work.
4. Your instincts tell you there’s something else you should be doing
Sometimes it’s difficult to define exactly what it is that you’re passionate about and when you do discover what that is, it can be equally difficult to determine how you can make this your primary source of income. Maybe you don’t need to. If you have a sense that there’s something else calling you, don’t let that song go unsung. Find a way to explore it further – even if it’s not your full-time role initially.
5. You’re utterly miserable
It goes without saying that this is the number one reason to change. I meet many people who think there’s something wrong with them for not being happy in roles that simply aren’t a good fit. Life is too short to spend eight or more hours a day in a place that makes you miserable. Don’t wait any longer – take a first step towards change today.
Start with these tips
- Get your resume up to scratch. Perhaps ask a friend for help or if it needs a complete overhaul, hire someone to do it for you.
- Spend a few hours discovering your dream role.
- Organise a coffee with someone who might be able to advise you about how to transition into your chosen field.