When I first wrote about the signs of ‘not feeling good enough’, I focused on four of the most common ways this difficult belief tends to surface, particularly when we’re stressed — overfunctioning, avoidance and numbing, procrastination and paralysis, and people-pleasing. In this article,…
Understanding the origins of overfunctioning If you recognised yourself in my last post about overfunctioning, you’re not alone. I had a huge response to this article which tells me that you are I are not alone. What I find interesting, is that once you realise…
Overfunctioning is one of the four hidden patterns I wrote about recently that often arise when we don’t feel good enough. The other three – avoidance, paralysis and people-pleasing – are also common, but out of all of these patterns, overfunctioning is the one…
Lately, I’ve come to appreciate just how life-changing it can be to write your life stories. Some part of me knew this already because I have felt it whenever I’ve heard an anecdote shared by one of my clients. Their stories move me and…
One of the most powerful ways to gain clarity about your career and life direction is to discover your values. Your values serve as your internal compass, guiding your decisions, shaping your behaviours, and helping you create a life that feels meaningful and fulfilling. When…
It took me many years to discover that there is a quiet strength in being a sensitive person, though it’s not always recognised or celebrated, and many of us believe we need to learn how to be less sensitive, which I believe is a…
At the outset of a new year, many of us feel the familiar pull to set goals, make new year’s resolutions or draft ambitious plans for the months ahead. We promise ourselves we’ll tackle the things we haven’t managed to achieve in previous years and…
When I was in my twenties and early thirties, I had a lot of people tell me, “you need to work out how to find your direction”. At the time, I felt completely lost and directionless, which was disheartening and stressful, especially when it…
A few years ago, I wrote an article about how to create a vision for your life and since then, I’ve been asked many times about whether long-term planning is a worthwhile exercise. After starting this process myself over twenty years ago, I can honestly…
