When I first wrote about the signs of ‘not feeling good enough’, I focused on four of the most common ways this difficult belief tends to surface, particularly when we’re stressed — overfunctioning, avoidance and numbing, procrastination and paralysis, and people-pleasing. In this article,…
If you recognised yourself in my last post about overfunctioning, you’re not alone. I had a huge response to this article which tells me that you are I are not alone. What I find interesting, is that once you realise you have an inclination…
Overfunctioning is one of the four hidden patterns I wrote about recently that often arise when we don’t feel good enough. The other three – avoidance, paralysis and people-pleasing – are also common, but out of all of these patterns, overfunctioning is the one…
If I could identify one consistent theme that impacts almost every one of my clients, it’s the feeling that no matter how much they do or what they achieve, they’re somehow still not good enough. Chances are this could be you too. You might…
It took me many years to discover that there is a quiet strength in being a sensitive person, though it’s not always recognised or celebrated, and many of us believe we need to learn how to be less sensitive, which I believe is a…
Comparing ourselves to others is a natural human tendency and while comparisons can often feel negative, they can also motivate us to create positive change in our lives. We know that what we see on social media is a fraction of the truth, yet we…
In my work as a life and career coach, something I’ve learned is that true self-belief is often quite different from what most people think. In many ways, it’s a paradox. It’s not about being the loudest voice in the room or being the kind…
As a life coach, I’m often working with clients to help quieten the voice of the inner critic. That little voice inside your head isn’t always balanced – it’s generally ready to remind you of your failings but it’s just as ready to dismiss your…
In my life coaching work, many of the women I work with are introverts. They’re uncomfortable with the idea of being the centre of attention. Sometimes, they may even pass up an opportunity to be visible. Even ‘having the floor’ or being the focus of…
