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    When Chris and I were in Bali last year, we went on an eco bike tour which was the highlight of our trip. Our guide was a young Balinese guy who had a fantastic sense of humour and an adventurous spirit. He rode down those hills at break neck speed. I was well out of practise riding, so at times I was terrified. But I absolutely loved it.

    It reminded me of when Chris and I first started going out. We lived in St Kilda and we rode our bikes every weekend. When the girls were little, we put them in bike seats and rode around with them. As they got older, they rode alongside us. And then somewhere along the way, the girls lost interest and our  bikes got rusty and old so we just stopped riding.

    Chris has some friends who cycle, so he took it up again early last year and after Bali, I decided to join him. I’m not brave enough to ride on the road but the bike path along the beach is only ten minutes from home. So I bought myself a beautiful retro bike and we have started riding together.

    It made me realise how much I had missed having a shared interest. For years we’ve been parenting, renovating houses and landscaping the garden together. Now the girls are grown, the renovations are finished and the garden is taking care of itself. So we need to find new things to keep us connected.

    We cycle along beside the beach and chat about other stuff we can do together. We’ve only had a handful of rides so far but it’s been great to reconnect with something we love to do.

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    Kate James is an author, coach and mindfulness teacher. She works with female leaders and business owners to help them clarify their values and strengths and discover a mindset that allows them to live confident, purposeful lives.